Entrepreneur, #1 Best-Selling author, mom and motivational speaker
Imagine a little girl eight or nine years walking to elementary school dragging her feet… so the other children did not see the holes in the soles of her worn shoes. Imagine the cardboard inside to cover the holes so her feet did not touch the ground. Do you see her? Feel her shame? Acknowledge her pain? Welfare! Food Stamps! Teen pregnancy! The little girl is the burden I dragged along, with her heavy bag for most of my childhood and adult-life; the inadequacy, self-doubt, judgement, partial worth, financial lack and struggle, to name a few items in her overpacked bag.
Well, I’ve come a long way from financial lack to successful leadership, so I thought. I didn’t realize how heavy the little girl 's bag was until I got stuck again and again making that journey. Yes, I was successful on the outside and emotionally stuck on the inside. In January 2020, I became really stuck and knew I needed the support of a Life Coach and hired one. During a session with Coach John, I was sharing the story of the little girl, how she travels with me every day, and is a reminder of the financial lack, limitations and negative things in my life. As I was referring to her with blame and shame, my coach pointedly asked: “Do you hate her?” His question was so abrupt; words so stark and straightforward they stunned me. I recall immediately responding defensively, “No, I don’t hate her!” Coach John looks me in the eyes with a piercing, yet calm stare and gently says, “Then tell her you love her, you’re sorry, it’s not her fault, she didn’t know any better.” That roadblock moving moment redirected and channeled my energy to change how I viewed myself and childhood experience. I was aghast how those 7 simple words, “I don’t hate you. I love you” unlocked a life transforming experience. I did apologize aloud to tell her I loved her. That little girl was a perceived vulnerability. Now, she is a valued companion that guides and guards me wherever we go, keeping me grounded and humbled. Miraculously, the bottle-neck was open and out poured a flow of unexpected opportunities and possibilities.
What story are you living that blocks you from creating professional advancement, career change, personal shift, spiritual peace, a wholesome lifestyle, financial freedom, and in essence anything you desire? What reality star role does the little girl in your story portray?
I did not know better than to forego a coach during those former phases of my personal and professional journey, so I carried the heavy bags, instead of sharing the load. I finally realized I was sabotaging and repelling greater success and fulfillment by allowing roadblocks to get in the way. It seems you take one step forward, three steps backward, going nowhere fast. That's why I carefully help women unpack the heavy bags weighing them down. Let's lighten the load! “When you know better, you do better.” Author Maya Angelou
We all can do better! That is why I enlighten, equip, and empower YOU to explore the unlimited possibilities your potential offers. We can create a Strategic Target Action Roadmap (S.T.A.R) together!
Circumstances are a reality, not a destiny